Women's Rights, where would we be today ?

WHAT'S HAPPENING - I haven't written a regular blog post in such a long time I'm not sure I remember how. I have had so many book reviews to catch up on and then the Read-a-thon, and more book reviews. While the read-a-thon is fun to do, it is also very wearing on the body! It takes several days before I am up to speed again. The whole next day I can't even see straight, and can't sleep because I am so over tired. You may ask - Is it really worth it? - YES! It is such a sense of accomplishment.

Women's Rights -
Last Wed. Ashley and I went to Seneca Falls to spend the day. First we went to breakfast at Jeremy's. Then walked up and down the sidewalks in town. We went to the Women's Rights Nat. Historical Park. Some of you may not know this but Seneca Falls is the site of the first woman's rights convention to discuss expanding the role of women in America in 1848. It is because of these meetings that women have the rights we have today, including the right to vote.
This building is the actual site where the meeting took place. You can see the different bricks, the old brick is the actual brick from the old building.
The wall behind me has water running over it, like a waterfall. On it is written "The Declaration of Sentiments"

When, in the course of human events, it becomes necessary for one portion of the family of man to assume among the people of the earth a position different from that which they have hitherto occupied, but one to which the laws of nature and of nature's God entitle them, a decent respect to the opinions of mankind requires that they should declare the causes that impel them to such a course.
We hold these truths to be self-evident; that all men and women are created equal; that they are endowed by their Creator with certain inalienable rights; that among these are life, liberty, and the pursuit of happiness; that to secure these rights governments are instituted, deriving their just powers from the consent of the governed. Whenever any form of Government becomes destructive of these ends, it is the right of those who suffer from it to refuse allegiance to it, and to insist upon the institution of a new government, laying its foundation on such principles, and organizing its powers in such form as to them shall seem most likely to effect their safety and happiness. Prudence, indeed, will dictate that governments long established should not be changed for light and transient causes; and accordingly, all experience hath shown that mankind are more disposed to suffer, while evils are sufferable, than to right themselves, by abolishing the forms to which they are accustomed. But when a long train of abuses and usurpations, pursuing invariably the same object, evinces a design to reduce them under absolute despotism, it is their duty to throw off such government, and to provide new guards for their future security. Such has been the patient sufferance of the women under this government, and such is now the necessity which constrains them to demand the equal station to which they are entitled.
The history of mankind is a history of repeated injuries and usurpations on the part of man toward woman, having in direct object the establishment of an absolute tyranny over her. To prove this, let facts be submitted to a candid world.
He has never permitted her to exercise her inalienable right to the elective franchise.
He has compelled her to submit to laws, in the formation of which she had no voice.
He has withheld from her rights which are given to the most ignorant and degraded men - both natives and foreigners.
Having deprived her of this first right of a citizen, the elective franchise, thereby leaving her without representation in the halls of legislation, he has oppressed her on all sides.
He has made her, if married, in the eye of the law, civilly dead.
He has taken from her all right in property, even to the wages she earns.
He has made her, morally, an irresponsible being, as she can commit many crimes, with impunity, provided they be done in the presence of her husband. In the covenant of marriage, she is compelled to promise obedience to her husband, he becoming, to all intents and purposes, her master - the law giving him power to deprive her of her liberty, and to administer chastisement.
He has so framed the laws of divorce, as to what shall be the proper causes of divorce; in case of separation, to whom the guardianship of the children shall be given, as to be wholly regardless of the happiness of women - the law, in all cases, going upon the false supposition of the supremacy of man, and giving all power into his hands.
After depriving her of all rights as a married woman, if single and the owner of property, he has taxed her to support a government which recognizes her only when her property can be made profitable to it.
He has monopolized nearly all the profitable employments, and from those she is permitted to follow, she receives but a scanty remuneration.
He closes against her all the avenues to wealth and distinction, which he considers most honorable to himself. As a teacher of theology, medicine, or law, she is not known.
He has denied her the facilities for obtaining a thorough education - all colleges being closed against her.
He allows her in Church as well as State, but a subordinate position, claiming Apostolic authority for her exclusion from the ministry, and with some exceptions, from any public participation in the affairs of the Church.
He has created a false public sentiment, by giving to the world a different code of morals for men and women, by which moral delinquencies which exclude women from society, are not only tolerated but deemed of little account in man.
He has usurped the prerogative of Jehovah himself, claiming it as his right to assign for her a sphere of action, when that belongs to her conscience and her God.
He has endeavored, in every way that he could to destroy her confidence in her own powers, to lessen her self-respect, and to make her willing to lead a dependent and abject life.
Now, in view of this entire disfranchisement of one-half the people of this country, their social and religious degradation, - in view of the unjust laws above mentioned, and because women do feel themselves aggrieved, oppressed, and fraudulently deprived of their most sacred rights, we insist that they have immediate admission to all the rights and privileges which belong to them as citizens of these United States.
In entering upon the great work before us, we anticipate no small amount of misconception, misrepresentation, and ridicule; but we shall use every instrumentality within our power to effect our object. We shall employ agents, circulate tracts, petition the State and national Legislatures, and endeavor to enlist the pulpit and the press in our behalf. We hope this Convention will be followed by a series of Conventions, embracing every part of the country.
As Ashley was reading this aloud, it brought tears to my eyes. I said to my daughter "Do realize what this means to women today? Just think what it would be like for us if none of this had never happened. And here we are at the very spot where the meetings took place! There are so many people, women, who will never get to see this first hand, and here we live just 1/2 hr away and can come here anytime we want. And what is even sadder is that there are women that don't even know about it or even care!"

If you are ever in this part of NY please go see this very important part of our history, and please think it is a big deal, because it is!

BOOKS - I had the great pleasure to finally read - "I'll Have Who She's Having" by Liz Fenton & Lisa Steinke. I have been wanting to read this book since it first came out. This is a very funny book! I give it 4 stars!
It is about 2 sisters - Kelly, married and not so sure she is happy, and Kate, desperately seeking a boyfriend and husband. Kate is so set on getting the hot volleyball coach, Tim (who seems to have the hots for Kelly) that she can't see that there may be a better match right in front of her, Mark. By the time she finally realizes she may have made a mistake, it might be too late, the perfect man may have left for good. Will Kate ever get married? Will Kelly ever realize she has the perfect marriage after all?
One of the things I really loved about this book is that the chapters switch back and forth between the sisters, each telling their point of view. And once in a while there is a chapter by one of the other characters - the liqueur store owner, Kelly's husband, Tim, Mark, and others. I loved these chapters best! Definitely a worth while read!
Liz and Lisa also have a GREAT Blog - "Chick-Lit is not dead" Go visit and tell them I sent you!

Don't forget to check out Martina's Blog - HERE


  1. Thanks so much for the shout out! We are SO happy you enjoyed I'LL HAVE WHO SHE'S HAVING! xo, Liz & Lisa

  2. Lauren and I went to this when we were up there a couple of years ago wine tasting! We went in the morning on Saturday. I have to say when Lauren said "I really want to visit the Women's Rights site," I wasn't that thrilled.

    I am truly proud that I can say I was there and experienced the history of what happened. It was an amazing trip and I can't wait to take Emmah there some day.


  3. NY has a lot of history. A lot of people don't realize this. I always tell people some interesting sites to go to see when they are going to NY.
    Nice pictures of you guys.

  4. Wow. Thanks for sharing your amazing experience with us.

  5. Enjoyed the experience with your daughters. I traveled to that area and never actually went there:<(

    I'll be looking for the book. I may have to buy a copy!

  6. What a meaningful experience with your daughter. You are so right..so many women don't know about it or care about it. Just the changes in the last 20 years have been amazing. We've come a long way baby...and there is still much progress to be made. FABULOUS POST!!

  7. wow that is awesome, if it wasn't so far I'd go. That is probably like a 6 hour drive right? Maybe one day when I'm visiting my son up in Geneseo, I'll hop over there, don't know how far it is from there either.